Nicole Kidman spent this Thanksgiving without her youngest children. The actress agreed that teen daughters Sunday Rose and Faith Margaret would spend Turkey Day with their dear old dad, after filing for divorce in September.

But the Australian beauty who calls Nashville home surely felt the sting of loneliness on this very American holiday.

Much has been made of the soon-to-be-exes, both 58, still living in close quarters: Kidman remains in the marital manse, with Keith Urban having moved 'very nearby'. 

They're often seen shopping separately at the same Whole Foods, and share hair stylist Ashley Wahler, who is entrusted with her butterscotch locks and his frosted tips.

It all has the makings of a Tennessee turf war, insiders say. But if the town really isn't big enough for both of them, why should she be the one to tuck her tail and head on out? 

After all, Kidman was reportedly left 'devastated' and 'shocked' by the dissolution of their 19-year union.

She fought like a rabid racoon to save what remained of their loveless bond, but Urban made clear he was ready to call it quits.

Sure, country star and mini-man Urban made Nashville his home before he met and married his 'Babygirl' - but she left her entire life in LA to contort herself to his comforts once wed.

And don't forget, she carted him off to rehab just four months after that 2006 wedding, and not once did she whinge or waver.

By all accounts, the now two-time divorcee is barely weathering the storm, leaning on good friends, her daughters and closest confidante, sister Antonia. 

She recently told Interview magazine that she is 'hanging in there'. 

Anyone who's been through a nasty breakup knows that's girl code for 'I'm basically falling apart and living off mimosas and sea moss, but holding it together when anyone's looking.'

Contrast that with Good Time Charlie Urban who's been linked with more than a few beauties who are barely a few years older than his first-born daughter.

Karley Scott Collins, 25, has been touring with the wrinkled crooner for months now.

They've gushed over each other in nauseating social media posts, but does she know he's old enough to be her grandad in certain parts of Tennessee?

My advice to Nicole?

If you want to win this war, as much as it hurts, the only road she needs to take is the high one.

There is no need to bad mouth an ex when he's doing enough damage to himself already. 

Let Keith have his embarrassing midlife crisis while you process your pain in private, and continue setting a good example for your daughters by working hard and extending good grace to a former partner who doesn't really deserve it. 

Wherever you choose to have a family with someone, even when it falls apart in spectacular fashion, that is your home.

Nicole has more hair so she should get custody of the hair stylist - and also first pick of Whole Foods, for when the moment comes and she needs a little late-night chocolate, or a box of organic tissues and an ugly cry.